Sanyatti
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7 SIGNS TO SPOT A WRONG MAN.
(Strictly for ladies).
1. HE IS INPATIENT, DISRESPECTFUL & POSEMPATHY
A man who cannot delay gratification but wants everything from you almost immediately, even before marriage; watch him. He wants early sex, undivided attention and adoration, he is all over you all the time, he is extremely jealous and possessive, he disrespects you, your feelings and values. Your opinion does not really count; he wants you to disconnect from your friends and family members and focus only on him.
2. HE IS UNSTABLE FINANCIALLY
A man who cannot take care of himself or his basic needs (No financial stability, or clear plans for financial growth). There are a lot of "fine boys" out there without brains or financial capability, just sweet talks and looks; don't be unfortunate to end up with one. He should get a job before thinking of romance, after all the book of JOB comes before ROMANS. Your role is to support as the help-meet.
3. HE IS OVERLY SECRETIVE
A man who finds it difficult to be open or transparent with you and avoid talking about his past relationships, failures, financial challenges, emotional problems; one who is very good at concealing negative things about himself to make a good impression, must be re-assessed before you commit. Relationships grow easily with transparency, honesty and communication.
4. HE IS STILL IMMATURE
A man who cannot take full responsibility for the consequences of his decisions, life and actions, but blames everyone else for his challenges except himself; one cannot sit resolve issues should be looked at again. He may also not take responsibility for that marriage!
5. HE IS A PERFECTIONIST, ALWAYS RIGHT
A man who is a serial fault-finder, an extremist with so much negativities, and a perfectionist is difficult to please. In his world, there is no room for mistakes of any kind and if you make a mistake, be ready for continuous or reoccurring harsh criticisms, emotional torture and mental breakdown. On the other hand, if he is good at messing up everything around him, unfortunately he could mess up your life too!
6. HE IS VISION-LESS AND WITHOUT DIRECTIONS
A man who is going nowhere (without directions) will lead his wife and family nowhere. Never consider getting married to a man who does not have a clear and realistic vision for his life! One without directions or understanding of what the next few years or milestones of his would be like. A man's responsibility is to provide leadership and direction to his family!
7. HE LACKS EMOTIONAL CONTROL AND EMPATHY
A hot tempered, abusive and impatient man without emotional control can ruin your life easily. Love covers a multitude of sin, until you land in hospital or a tragic event occurs. Avoid committing to a man who is not emphatic and does not have control over his emotions.
There are more!
PS: Being with a man who has a genuine relationship with God is a good foundation. A man who loves and respect the Lord sincerely, will love and respect you in obedience to the Lord!
I know you have been hurt, disappointed, abused, decieved and mistreated severally in the past; but good men still exist out there. You can live and love again.